September 05, 2006

A family of three now

On Sunday (notice the irony here, Father's Day) John went to stay with his parents for a while. Mutual decision you could say. I won't go into all the details here in such a public place but those of you who know me a bit will know that we've been struggling as a couple for a very long time.
It may be a permanent situation, it may not be. I just don't know. I do know that a major stress factor complicating my life is now at least out of sight. I am in limbo but do know it is the right thing for me at this stage. No more frustration, no more resentment, no more arguments. That's a good thing right? So for now scrapping is going on the back burner and I have to focus on ME and my kids. Not saying I won't be doing any, just not putting any pressure on myself to create something wonderful and publish worthy all the time (not that I get any picked up anyway). However I do acknowledge the benefits of 'scrap therapy' and once my head is in a better place I'm sure I'll be doing plenty of that. But for the moment I'm focussing on the practical things like money and stuff.
Had a very emotional bedtime cuddle with Thomas today, gosh this is hard.

28 Comments:

At 9:16 PM, Blogger Lynda said...

Big hugs Marieke, and sending you lots of strength and good wishes for the road ahead.

 
At 9:16 PM, Anonymous Janine said...

Marieke if you need a cuppa you know where I am. If you need a baby sitter on ocassion or for a few hours when you need some "me time" or just want a change of scenery let me know.

 
At 7:22 AM, Anonymous Debbie said...

You may not know me but we are all here for you hon...

 
At 8:47 AM, Blogger Chris Millar said...

Hi Marieke, what a difficult decision that must have been. I wish happiness ahead for all of you.
Big hugs!

 
At 9:25 AM, Blogger Ruth said...

good luck Marieke for the path you're about to take. BIG HUGS TOO!!

 
At 10:30 AM, Anonymous sarah said...

Good luck ahead whatever the future holds....

 
At 12:06 PM, Blogger Ruth said...

Lots of hugs coming your way, hope you get everything sorted out for the best. Take care.

 
At 12:54 PM, Blogger Mel said...

Thinking of you - whatever is meant to be will be.

 
At 1:10 PM, Blogger lianne said...

Look after yourself Marieke. Big hugs.
Love your new banner, so cool.

 
At 1:23 PM, Anonymous Ann said...

Sending you a big hug Marieke, hang in there everything will work out okay even though it's really hard at the moment.

Be kind to yourself.

 
At 10:27 PM, Blogger nzmommy said...

Marieke - sorry to hear your news. Man, I wish I had your phone number and I would call so we can chat! I may not completely know everything but I may understand a BIG part of everything. Sending you big *hugs* and wishing I could help, even if it is lending an understanding ear.

 
At 11:07 PM, Anonymous Lynda M said...

Marieke I am sending you a big hug and for your little people.
Take care of yourself.And take time for yourself.I know thats near impossible with children.

 
At 11:48 PM, Anonymous susan j said...

Marieke, you must be in a very hard place right now. Maybe this time apart will allow you to access want you really want to do. It's really hard when you are right in it and living it. Well, I think anyway? What the heck do I know? Look after yourself and the kids too.

 
At 1:52 PM, Blogger Delys said...

Thinking of you Marieke! What a tough time of it you are having. Know that we are listening anytime you want an ear. Look after yourself and give yourself a treat..you need some ME time too.

 
At 8:17 PM, Blogger Lara said...

hugs Marieke. You are right it is hard! Thinking of you.

 
At 11:13 PM, Blogger Marie said...

hugs Marieke!

 
At 1:21 AM, Anonymous Jaimie said...

((((HUGS)))) - Thinking of you and yours

xxxx

 
At 7:57 AM, Blogger Jessejames said...

Be strong, its hard times, but you only need to reach out to your scrappy comunity and we will help.

 
At 10:08 AM, Blogger Rach H said...

Marieke sending BIG hugs to you + your kids. If there is anything i can do just flick me a email.
take care of yourself. And know that there are lots of us out there are willing to give you support. :)

 
At 3:27 PM, Blogger Cath Sheard said...

Put it this way - for me, way too many Mums hang on for too long because they think it's better to "Stick it out for the sake of the kids". And the stats on violent crime in our country show it just ain't so.
My first marriage disolved in a screaming heap that must have lit up the Auckland sky at the time. But you know what? The pain fades, things start to get better, and one day you realise you are more yourself than you have been in a very long time.
Take care of yourself {{{{hugs}}}}

 
At 5:43 PM, Blogger Kirsty said...

Hugs from me too Marieke. Please ring me or email me if you need ANY help! Happy to do so.

 
At 10:43 AM, Blogger Yolande said...

{{{HUGS}}} MArieke - take care and know that many are thinking of you and lending a shoulder for support should you need it. Look after yourself and those beautiful children.

 
At 2:46 PM, Blogger Andrea Senn said...

Sending you big hugs Marieke. What a difficult time it must be for you.

 
At 6:23 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thinking of you Marieke. Hang in there, be strong and do whats right for YOU!!
Take Care of yourself
Hugs
Michele

 
At 8:48 PM, Blogger Kate Skwishy said...

{{Hugs to you and the kids}}

I hope that the two of you are able to sort things out. Whether that means the two of you get back together or decide to stay apart for a while.

Take care, and if you need to vent, you know how to contact me.

K xxxx

 
At 4:54 AM, Anonymous Jeni said...

Hang in there Marieke. I hope thing are settling for you.

At least scrapping is your escape.

Thinking of you,
Jeni

 
At 1:25 PM, Blogger Delys said...

How are you Marieke? Im hoping you are coping. Dont forget we are all here if you need us.

 
At 11:00 PM, Blogger Shani Kowalczyk said...

I really wish you well Marieke. Time does amazing things. Thinking of you :-)

 

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